Daily Archives: February 1, 2011
ARE YOU MY FRIEND?
Will you be there when I’m down,
And catch me when I fall?
Will you hold me when I need
To feel the warmth of your touch?
Will you laugh when I laugh,
And cry when I cry?
Will you let me rant and rave,
When I need to let off steam?
Will you discuss those painful things,
That you’d rather not think about?
Like the times we’ve hurt each other,
And promised would never do so again?
Will you say the right thing,
When all I’ve heard is the wrong?
And tell me soothing words,
That make the pain I feel subside?
Will you understand me when I say,
“I can’t see you now, go away”?
Will you come back when I call,
As if nothing happened at all?
If you’ll do these things for me,
And keep smiling all the way.
If you’ll be with me through the bad times,
As well as the good.
Then truly you are my friend,
My pal, my mate and my confidante.
And that means so much to me.
I thank you dearly, for being there,
You, My Friend.
Did you ever find yourself in one of those relationships where you were not sure what you were getting out of it anymore? I mean a few days could go by and your perfectly content with not talking to that person? At what point do you make the leap to just walk away? I think everyone goes through this at a point in their lives. I have been faced with this a couple of times in the last 6 months or so.
When I think about a friend, I think of someone who has your back no matter what, someone who is truly happy for you when things are good in your life and is truly sad with you when things are not so good in your life. A friend is someone who you can be yourself around, not be afraid to let your hair down and certainly not afraid to speak your true feelings to. A friend is someone who shuts up long enough to hear what you have to say, even if it’s something you have already said. A friend does not care if there is something that you do better than they do and a friend won’t ever try to show you up , compete with you or make a fool of you in front of other people.
I think a good friendship is something that is earned, with a lot of time and certainly with a lot trust and respect. I don’t personally have a lot of friends, I have maybe one or two good friends that I know would be there for me no matter what. The others honestly are questionable. I am a hard person to get to know, I’ll admit, that is my downfall. I don’t trust easily and I have high expectations in a friendship. I know a lot of people think they can *crack* me or* break* through my walls if they try hard enough, let me warn you up front that very few have and one of those few happen to be my husband. I keep a lot of what I’m feeling inside, but what I am is a person that cares about other people something fierce. If you have managed to make it past my walls, I will always be by your side and I will always protect you the best that I can. I will always be there for you at the drop of a dime and when you hurt, I’ll hurt and when your happy, I’m happy.
Let me also say this, if you do something to hurt me, whether it be by something you said or you did, it takes me a very long time to come around and sadly, sometimes, I just won’t come around anymore. I lose interest, I lose interest in you and what you have to say. I will begin to think differently of you, and I will begin to wonder why we became friends in the first place. I have had a few of those relationships in my life as well, some have stayed and redeemed themselves and sadly some have never made it back into my life. Life is too short for me to waste my time on people who don’t have my best interest at hand.
Perhaps this sounds crass and mean, but, like I said..I take friendship very seriously. I have been through so much in my life and much of what I feel is guarded and protected, but if you take the time to really know me and to really love me and care for me, you truly will reap the reward of having someone in your life that will always be by your side, that will always try to have your best interest at heart, that will be there to laugh with you, cry with you and to grow old with you..
Don’t ever take a friendship for granted..at the blink of an eye, it can disappear.